Good question! What can we do about the problem with bullies? Some friends have asked me to blog about this subject, not just to call attention to it but, to figure out a solution together.
What is bullying? The definition depends on the type of bullying.
Cyber bullying: Putting negative stuff, (rumors, lies, naked pictures of someone on the internet. I think the best solution is alert the proper authorities. Document.
Physical bullying: Hitting, tripping, pulling hair or clothes. Causing physical harm. Probably not the best solution but the only one that worked for me was hitting back. The bullying got worse if I tried to let an adult handle it. If there’s a better way to handle it please tell me in comments.
Sexual bullying: Touching, showing nudes, comments, suggestions. Definitely document and report! Show up! Hold the bully accountable. You could be the solution or the problem if they do that again! I was out one evening, a guy wanted some “hands on” experience. After a couple of attempts at nicely telling him to stop, I hit him. Problem solved!
Mental and emotional bullying: Verbally knocking someone down to elevate yourself. Those scars take forever to heal. Telling your wife to lose weight or you’re outta here in six months! BYE!
Exclusion because someone is different. Maybe because of challenge, race or orientation. A friend and her family get bullied a lot because of her special needs son. She almost gave up on her degree because of it and she is so close to graduating. I said, “Don’t give up five minutes before the miracle. You are giving in and letting the bullies win!” I hope she takes my advice.
What causes someone to bully? Maybe they were bullied. Acting out because they aren’t getting enough positive attention. Angry with the world.
How do we solve the problem? Be the change you want to see. See something say something. Get involved. Make your children feel loved. Get involved in the community. Be a safe place. Let’s do this together.